Dinner is not the bonding moments seen on tv commercials. I have yet to have a dinner that didn't involve the words " I'm only eating the mashed potatoes", or "I can't eat that without ketchup", or "He's got more than me!" I very clearly recall the time that I went into the kitchen knowing that I had to make dinner, and burst into tears. To go to all that effort and expense just to listen complaints after wards. We have lived off of nachos for the past 8 years.
Us women are so brainwashed into thinking that this is our duty. Of course, being the only adult in the family reinforces this. But what if there is a spouse? The media force feeds it to us on a daily basis that the feeding of the family is absolutely and totally up to us. Fact is, we don't even see these not-so-subliminal messages anymore.
For instance, I was watching an episode of "8 Simple Rules" where the kids grandfather has moved in as well as the kid's uncle, and the mom and three kids are still at home. In this episode, the two men are sitting at the kitchen counter, the kids are about the kitchen and living-room, and the mom is in the kitchen making dinner. She is the only one that works full time as a nurse in a school, and the ENTIRE FAMILY IS SITTING AROUND DOING NOTHING. I see this in almost every show I watch, every commercial I see, this is brainwashing, letting us think that this is the norm.
I revolted years ago, I haven't cooked a turkey since forever because I don't want to. When my boyfriend and I were dating, I had cooked us up some Chinese food at his house. When we were all done, he said, "but you didn't clean up the kitchen", and I said, "I'm not that type of girlfriend, you need a wife for that".
And yes, we are still dating.
On this page is my collection of recipes, entitled I hate cooking.